Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships (Hardcover)

INTRODUCTION Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued? (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) “THE CHANGER AND THE CHANGED”: EX-LOVERS AS CONTEXTS FOR DEVELOPMENT To All the Girls I Left Before (Alison Bechdel) Tenth Anniversary (Jill Stranger) Coming Out of My Closet (Barbara Brown) In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers Unconventional Convention (Pat Pomerleau Chávez) These Most Difficult Tasks (Karen Heise) Passion (Marilyn Lee) MOVING COSTS: CHALLENGES OF (RE)DEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND DEALING WITH UNFINISHED BUSINESS Still the One (Susan McCully) Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers (Tammie M. Kennedy) Daring to Take the Risk (Myra Betschild and Adrienne Fortanier) Family Affairs (L. J. “Tess” Tessier) Highly Favored Ex (Gina Perille) For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her (Renny Christopher) TOO MUCH TSORAS? THE HIGH COSTS OF MAINTAINING TIES Truth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between (Marilyn Lee) Temporary Temptation (Cecilia Stanton) Lost Love (Renny Christopher) Neurotic Love Letters (tatiana de la tierra) Goodbye to My Lover (Michelle Gibson) Leaving Liza (Jane Futcher) Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts (Dr. Dyke) NOT LOVERS BUT NOT “JUST FRIENDS”: RECONSTRUCTING FAMILIES, FRIENDSHIPS, AND COMMUNITIES PERSONAL STORIES Im Not Lisa (Kate Brown) The House on Transcript Avenue (Bernadette Barton) The Politics of Potlucks (Barbara Esrig) Family Doggerel (Becky Thacker) The Visit (Marilyn Lee) Irritating and Constricting/Elating and Elastic—Being “Ex” as a Lesbian (Fe Day) THEORETICAL REFLECTIONS Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Tabitha Eden) When Threes a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love (Kelly McWilliam) Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships (Susan B. Fitzgerald) Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Jacqueline S. Weinstock) AFTERWORD The Migration of the Mythic Lesbian (Marny Hall) Index