Finding Your Best Self: Recovery from Addiction, Trauma, or Both (Paperback, Revised)

1. Moving forward from trauma, addiction, or both2. Starting out3. “Things turn out okay”--David’s experience4. It’s medical--you’re not crazy, lazy, or bad5. How do people change?6. The world is your school7. Listen to your behavior8. Wish versus reality9. Find your way10. Possible selves11. The language of trauma and addiction12. Safe coping skills13. Social pain14. True self-compassion15. Why trauma and addiction go together16. Forgiving yourself17. Body and biology18. Getting to a calm place: The skill of ??grounding19. The culture of silence20. Motivation: Leverage one problem to help another21. Tip the Scales recovery plan22. Every child is a detective23. How to survive a relapse24. See the link25. Practice26. Identity: How you view yourself27. Perception: How others view you28. The decision to grow29. Dark feelings: Rage, hatred, revenge, bitterness30. Imagination31. Create a healing image32. Find a good counselor33. Two types of trauma counseling34. What the wounded can give back35. “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars”Appendix A. How others can help--family, friends, partners, sponsors, counselorsAppendix B. How to conduct Finding Your Best Self as a counseling or peer modelAppendix C. ResourcesAppendix D. Excessive Behavior ScaleAppendix E. Brief quiz on trauma and addiction: Knowledge is power