The Student Eq Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success: Facilitation and Activity Guide (Paperback)

Preface xiii

About the Authors xv

1 Introduction to the Facilitation and Activity Guide 1

Emotional Intelligence Defined and Research Overview 1

Planning Your Classes 4

Student Reflection 4

Student Emotional Intelligence Assessment 5

Facilitating Class Discussions 5

Agree-Disagree Activities 6

Organization of Th is Guide 7

Materials 8

A Note About Language 9

2 Case Studies of Emotionally Intelligent (and Not Emotionally Intelligent!) Behavior 11

Case Study #1: Why Can’t I Make an A? 13

Case Study #2: 15 Years to Graduate 14

Case Study #3: But I’m Good! 15

Case Study #4: Starting College 16

Case Study #5: Shared Responsibilities 17

Case Study #6: A Costly Decision 18

Case Study #7: First Job Jitters 19

Case Study #8: No Way 21

Case Study #9: Twins? 22

3 Emotional Self-Awareness 25

Student Learning Outcomes 26

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 26

Planning Your Class 27

Activity 3.1: Feelings Journal 30

Worksheet 3.1: Feelings Journal 31

Activity 3.2: Hot Buttons 32

Worksheet 3.2: Hot Buttons 33

Activity 3.3: ABCDE Exercise—The Impact of Thoughts on Emotions and Behaviors 34

Worksheet 3.3: ABCDE Exercise—The Impact of Thoughts on

Emotions and Behaviors 35

Activity 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 37

Worksheet 3.4: Hot Buttons on Reality TV 38

Activity 3.5: Positive and Negative Aff ect 39

Worksheet 3.5: Positive and Negative Aff ect 40

Activity 3.6: Self-Development Plan for Emotional Self-Awareness 40

Activity 3.7: Case Study—Emotional Self-Awareness 40

4 Self-Regard 41

Student Learning Outcomes 42

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 42

Planning Your Class 43

Activity 4.1: Who Am I? 45

Worksheet 4.1: Who Am I? 46

Activity 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 47

Worksheet 4.2: Locus of Control Scale (Rotter, 1966) 48

Activity 4.3: Positive and Negative Self-Talk 51

Worksheet 4.3: Positive and Negative Self-Talk 53

Activity 4.4: 360° Feedback 54

Worksheet 4.4: 360° Feedback 55

Activity 4.5: Modern Family 56

Worksheet 4.5: Modern Family 57

Activity 4.6: Self-Development Plan for Self-Regard 57

Activity 4.7: Case Study—Self-Regard 57

5 Self-Actualization 59

Student Learning Outcomes 60

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 60

Planning Your Class 61

Activity 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 63

Worksheet 5.1: Who Am I? (continued) 64

Activity 5.2: Emotions Meter 65

Worksheet 5.2: Emotions Meter 66

Activity 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs—A Window into You! 67

Worksheet 5.3: Quotes, Sayings, and Songs—A Window into You! 68

Activity 5.4: Defi ning Your Personal Mission Statement 69

Worksheet 5.4: Defi ning Your Personal Mission Statement 70

Activity 5.5: Th e Amazing Race 71

Worksheet 5.5: Th e Amazing Race 72

Activity 5.6: Self-Development Plan for Self-Actualization 72

Activity 5.7: Case Study—Self-Actualization 72

6 Emotional Expression 73

Student Learning Outcomes 74

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 74

Planning Your Class 75

Activity 6.1: Observing Emotions 78

Worksheet 6.1: Observing Emotions 80

Activity 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 81

Worksheet 6.2: Observing Your Emotions 82

Activity 6.3: Follow the Leader 83

Worksheet 6.3: Follow the Leader 84

Activity 6.4: “I” Messages 87

Worksheet 6.4: “I” Messages 88

Activity 6.5: TV Emotions 90

Worksheet 6.5: TV Emotions 91

Activity 6.6: Self-Development Plan for Emotional Expression 92

Activity 6.7: Case Study—Emotional Expression 92

7 Independence 93

Student Learning Outcomes 94

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 94

Planning Your Class 95

Activity 7.1: Private Eye 98

Worksheet 7.1: Private Eye 99

Activity 7.2: By Yourself 100

Worksheet 7.2: By Yourself 101

Activity 7.3: Please Do Th is for Me! 102

Worksheet 7.3: Please Do Th is for Me! 103

Activity 7.4: Reality TV—Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 104

Worksheet 7.4: Reality TV—Too Needy, Too Alone, or Just Right? 105

Activity 7.5: On My Own 106

Worksheet 7.5: On My Own 107

Activity 7.6: Self-Development Plan for Independence 108

Activity 7.7: Case Study—Independence 108

8 Assertiveness 109

Student Learning Outcomes 110

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 110

Planning Your Class 111

Activity 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 114

Worksheet 8.1: Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive? 115

Activity 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 117

Worksheet 8.2: It Seems So Easy When Others Do It 119

Activity 8.3: Giving Feedback 120

Worksheet 8.3: Giving Feedback 121

Activity 8.4: Controversial Issues 122

Worksheet 8.4: Controversial Issues 123

Activity 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 124

Worksheet 8.5: Assertiveness Quiz 125

Activity 8.6: Self-Development Plan for Assertiveness 127

Activity 8.7: Case Study—Assertiveness 127

9 Interpersonal Relationship 129

Student Learning Outcomes 130

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 130

Planning Your Class 131

Activity 9.1: My Favorite Person 134

Worksheet 9.1: My Favorite Person 135

Activity 9.2: Sharing Secrets 136

Worksheet 9.2: Sharing Secrets 137

Activity 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 138

Worksheet 9.3: Scaling the Intimacy Wall 139

Activity 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 140

Worksheet 9.4: Beginning a Relationship 141

Activity 9.5: Getting Closer 142

Worksheet 9.5: Getting Closer 143

Activity 9.6: Self-Development Plan for Interpersonal Relationships 143

Activity 9.7: Case Study—Interpersonal Relationships 143

10 Empathy 145

Student Learning Outcomes 146

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 146

Planning Your Class 147

Activity 10.1: What Is Empathy? 149

Worksheet 10.1: What Is Empathy? 150

Activity 10.2: Th e Art of Questions 151

Worksheet 10.2: Th e Art of Questions 152

Activity 10.3: Refl ective Listening 153

Worksheet 10.3: Refl ective Listening 154

Activity 10.4: Empathy Assessment 155

Worksheet 10.4: Empathy Assessment 156

Activity 10.5: Listening Even When It’s Hard to Do! 159

Worksheet 10.5: Listening Even When It’s Hard to Do! 160

Activity 10.6: Self-Development Plan for Empathy 161

Activity 10.7: Case Study—Empathy 161

11 Social Responsibility 163

Student Learning Outcomes 164

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 164

Planning Your Class 165

Activity 11.1: Doing What’s Right 168

Worksheet 11.1: Doing What’s Right 169

Activity 11.2: Cooperation 170

Worksheet 11.2: Cooperation 171

Activity 11.3: A Company’s Social Responsibility Policy 172

Worksheet 11.3: A Company’s Social Responsibility Policy 173

Activity 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 174

Worksheet 11.4: My Social Responsibility Policy 175

Activity 11.5: Take Action! 176

Worksheet 11.5: Take Action! 177

Activity 11.6: Self-Development Plan for Social Responsibility 177

Activity 11.7: Case Study—Social Responsibility 177

12 Reality Testing 179

Student Learning Outcomes 181

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 181

Planning Your Class 182

Activity 12.1: My Big Decision 184

Worksheet 12.1: My Big Decision 185

Activity 12.2: Th e Mirrors Around You 186

Worksheet 12.2: Th e Mirrors Around You 187

Activity 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 189

Worksheet 12.3: Failed Reality Testing 190

Activity 12.4: Decision-Making Interviews 191

Worksheet 12.4: Decision-Making Interviews 192

Activity 12.5: Reality-Testing Scenarios 192

Worksheet 12.5: Reality-Testing Scenarios 193

Activity 12.6: Self-Development Plan for Reality Testing 194

Activity 12.7: Case Study—Reality Testing 194

13 Problem Solving 195

Student Learning Outcomes 196

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 196

Planning Your Class 197

Activity 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 199

Worksheet 13.1: What Is My Emotion? 200

Activity 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 201

Worksheet 13.2: Failed Decisions Revisited 202

Activity 13.3: Solving Your Problems 203

Worksheet 13.3: Solving Your Problems 204

Activity 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 205

Worksheet 13.4: But Can I Really Change My Emotion? 206

Activity 13.5: One Fine Day 207

Worksheet 13.5: One Fine Day 208

Activity 13.6: Self-Development Plan for Problem Solving 208

Activity 13.7: Case Study—Problem Solving 208

14 Impulse Control 209

Student Learning Outcomes 210

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 210

Planning Your Class 212

Activity 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 214

Worksheet 14.1: Marshmallow Cravings 215

Activity 14.2: But I Want . . . 216

Worksheet 14.2: But I Want . . . 217

Activity 14.3: Survivor 218

Worksheet 14.3: Survivor 218

Activity 14.4: No Regrets? 219

Worksheet 14.4: No Regrets? 220

Activity 14.5: Strategies for Success 221

Worksheet 14.5: Strategies for Success 222

Activity 14.6: Self-Development Plan for Impulse Control 222

Activity 14.7: Case Study—Impulse Control 222

15 Flexibility 223

Student Learning Outcomes 224

Suggested Books, Movies, and Television Shows 224

Planning Your Class 225

Activity 15.1: Refl ections About Change 227

Worksheet 15.1: Refl ections About Change 228

Activity 15.2: Flexibility Survey 229

Worksheet 15.2: Flexibility Survey 230

Activity 15.3: Th e Price of Inflexibility 231

Worksheet 15.3: Th e Price of Inflexibility 232

Activity 15.4: Stretching Yourself 233

Worksheet 15.4: Stretching Yourself 234

Activity 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 235

Worksheet 15.5: Flexibility Forecasting 236

Activity 15.6: Self-Development Plan for Flexibility 237

Activity 15.7: Case Study—Flexibility 237

16 Stress Tolerance 239

A Note About Th is Chapter 240

Student Learning Outcomes 240

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 241

Planning Your Class 242

Activity 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 244

Worksheet 16.1: Identifying Your Stressors 245

Activity 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 246

Worksheet 16.2: Understanding Why You Get Stressed 247

Activity 16.3: Irrational Th inking and Stress 248

Worksheet 16.3: Irrational Th inking and Stress 249

Activity 16.4: Resources for Coping 250

Worksheet 16.4: Resources for Coping 251

Activity 16.5: Stress Busters 252

Worksheet 16.5: Stress Busters 253

Activity 16.6: Self-Development Plan for Stress Tolerance 253

Activity 16.7: Case Study—Stress Tolerance 253

17 Optimism 255

Student Learning Outcomes 256

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 256

Planning Your Class 257

Activity 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 259

Worksheet 17.1: Optimism Begins with Framing 260

Activity 17.2: De-motivators—Watch Your Self-Talk 261

Worksheet 17.2: De-motivators—Watch Your Self-Talk 262

Activity 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 263

Worksheet 17.3: Assessing Your Optimism 264

Activity 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 265

Worksheet 17.4: Pep Talks and Persistence 266

Activity 17.5: Perseverance Defi ned 267

Worksheet 17.5: Perseverance Defi ned 268

Activity 17.6: Self-Development Plan for Optimism 269

Activity 17.7: Case Study—Optimism 269

18 Happiness 271

Student Learning Outcomes 272

Suggested Readings, Movies, and Television Shows 272

Planning Your Class 273

Activity 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 275

Worksheet 18.1: Taking Stock of Your Happiness Level 276

Activity 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 277

Worksheet 18.2: Laugh a Little, Laugh a Lot 278

Activity 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 279

Worksheet 18.3: Does Money Buy Happiness? 280

Activity 18.4: Well-Being Indicators 281

Worksheet 18.4: Well-Being Indicators 282

Activity 18.5: Th e Pursuit of Happyness 283

Worksheet 18.5: Th e Pursuit of Happyness 284

Activity 18.6: One Commitment—Self-Development Plan for Happiness 284

Activity 18.7: Case Study—Happiness 284

References 285

Appendix A Model Syllabus 287

Appendix B Sample Grading Rubric for EI Reflection Questions 291

Appendix C Movie Selections for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 293

Appendix D Self-Development Plan for Improving Emotional Intelligence 301

Appendix E Resources for Teaching Emotional Intelligence 303